Sunday, February 24, 2013

Arizona Snapshots

A few more photos from Arizona I wanted to archive, these coming from my phone.

First day: Running with Sister

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Playing in the pool with Dad

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My day out - Massage, mani and a coffee in the sunshine

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"Pool, mama?" (His concern! I love his furrowed brow.)

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His new smile: scrunched nose, gummy mouth.

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Brother and Bo

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How Do You Roll? Sushi - as seen on Shark Tank. (We watched that episode the same day we left and decided we had to try it. It was good!)

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Someone is having a sad. (But I am enjoying a rare snuggle.)

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Phoenix.

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Friday, February 22, 2013

Arizona Vacation

I didn't want to share my actual vacation post with my Negative Nelly post about flying with him. Once we made it here in one piece, we've had a lovely vacation.

Going on vacation with family means having lots of extra hands on deck. I was spoiled rotten by an entire week of sleeping in early while my mom and Bo had a bottle and coffee date (Bo, Mom, respectively). I maybe changed 3 diapers all week. Occasionally I had to steal my baby back to get some snuggles of my own!

My parents watched Bo while Matt and I had a day to explore Phoenix including a trip to a sushi restaurant we had seen on Shark Tank and a happy hour at Mellow Mushroom. We also had a night out to ourselves after all our siblings left, and checked out a restaurant in Scottsdale recommended by a friend. I took full advantage of the team of babysitters present and had a massage, a mani and a pedicure though out the week.

Needless to say, I'm feeling more like a human being than I have in about 6 months. Sleep, pamerping, date nights… if your'e going to bring a baby on vacation, it is also highly recommended to bring his grandparents!

We also had a great time hanging out with family at the house. Bo had his first (second, third and fourth) experience in a swimming pool and loved it. I have a feeling he is going to be one of those kids in the pool who has blue lips and pruned fingers before he'll consent to getting out. We had a lot of family dinners, a very vicious and competitive game of "Name that Tune" and spent a lot of time soaking up the sun outside - taking walks or runs, or maxing out time on the golf course (boys). Despite the painful journey to get here, it was a relaxing and restorative week away.

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Thursday, February 21, 2013

Flying with A Baby

For as long as I can remember, my family has escaped the snow belt of upstate New York in mid-February for a thaw out trip to somewhere warm. In our grown up years, us kids have had a new appreciation for the opportunity to tag along on - even if we are escaping from a place where a "cold rain" can qualify for a snow day. So when my parents planned their February trip to Arizona last year - back when Bo was still little chicken nugget in my tummy - we enthusiastically agreed to come. Warm weather, a pool, plenty of golf… what's not to be excited about?

As the trip grew closer, the reality of traveling with a baby began to sink in and thoughts of a lovely relaxing vacation became replaced with hyperventilating panic attacks about flying with a baby. I think I hit up everyone I knew who had every traveled with a baby to ask for tips and then crossed my fingers, packed enough stuff for 3 babies in my carry-on and said a little prayer.

I wish I could conclude this story with "it went so much better than I expected!" As I write this, on our second to last day of vacation, I am already dreading our return. Matt and I have just been telling ourselves: "it is going to suck. It is going to suck for a few hours and then it will be over and in the end, we will be glad we did this."

This is approximately the same mantra I tell myself during long half marathon runs. However, during those I am at least using listening to Rhianna instead of a screaming baby.

Let's just say my child doesn't like to sleep anywhere besides his crib and he doesn't give in to utter exhaustion without a fight. A loud fight. A back-arching, face-scrunching, tiny feet kicking the air, loud fight.

If I had any advice to offer people flying with a baby, it would be to go when they are approximately 8 weeks old and will sleep anywhere or go when they are 18 years old and will sleep anywhere.

In all seriousness despite my griping, I'm glad we did it. Matt and I have always said we wanted to make traveling a priority in our family. We waited quite awhile to have a baby, and we packed those 5 years with so many awesome trips and memories. Once we decided to have a baby, we swore to each other that even though it was never going to be as easy breezy as the days of the two of us stuffing all our things into 2 carry-on's and jetting away for a weekend, we were going to make it happen.

Yes, I'm am totally emotionally scarred about our first two flights and shaking with trepidation with thoughts of our next two flights… but isn't that just part of parenting? Finding the delicate balance between doing awesome things as a family even if they might suck a little bit on a personal level? Pretty sure that's what we signed up for. So, if you're reading this on Saturday, just go ahead and say a little prayer for us that we make it home in one piece.

And ask us in a month or two where we are going next. And how many mini bottles we'll be buying this go-round.


Thursday, February 14, 2013

My Funny Valentine

I was under the impression that I had already given my heart away.

But it seems to have grown just big enough to be shared by two. Happy Valentine's Day to the sweetest little boy I know, and his generous and kind Daddy.


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Sunday, February 10, 2013

Happenings

Last weekend my friend Heather came to visit me. We've been friends for almost six years, when she was my bright-eyed and helpful intern at Wake. We've forged a bestie-ship ever since and have driven back and forth across many miles for visits and catch up sessions. Recently, she moved to Nashville from Connecticut putting her back in road trip distance. She came over to meet the kiddo and we had a fun weekend of catching up on each other's lives, creating secret Pinterest boards, eating Camino pastries and turning our teeth purple with a few bottles of wine.

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On Monday, I met my friend Megan - who I originally met over Twitter and who is from my husband's hometown - at Mellow Mushroom for lunch. She was in town to do some shopping and we had a chance to catch up and let our little boys get to know each other. Bo was quite taken with Henry, but I'm not sure the admiration was mutual.

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On Thursday, I went and got my hairs did. If I somehow find myself in a situation with an excessive amount of discretionary income, I will go get my hair done on a near-weekly basis. (At least just shampoo and blow-dried.) It is probably one of my favorite experiences in life. Over the last year, I have been going darker and darker and have now officially crossed over into the world of brunettes.

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My experience at the hair salon included a brush with fame. While she was putting color on my hair, my stylist happened to mention that a regular client of hers who is a NASCAR driver, was going to be coming in with a film crew to be taped having his hair cut as part of a "Day in the Life" documentary.

Well then.

(I honestly didn't know who this guy was except that he had happened to be on Duck Dynansty this morning. So there's that.)

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I kept getting nervous he'd talk to me and I'd be that awkward person who said something really stupid on camera but luckily, the only time he talked to me the film crew had stepped away. I was still that totally awkward person who said something really stupid though.

This week, the kiddo has not been in a great mood. I'm wondering if there are pearly whites waiting to bust through his little gums. I guess that would make me rather pissy too. It's tough to see him in a bad mood, because he's usually such a pleasant little guy. This picture pains me - the little furrowed brow! Woe is me!

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Being a baby seems like it's really hard sometimes.

On Friday, we had friends over for dinner. Matt made baby back ribs and I made Barefoot Contessa cosmopolitans. And some other food stuff, but the cosmos were really my pride and joy.

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Yesterday, I went to Teri's house to trade life skills. I helped her organize her email inboxes and come up with some systems to manage incoming mail and she taught me how to blow-dry my hair holding a round brush. Pretty sure we both left each other's company feeling ready to take on the world anew. Clean inboxes and a good blow out are some pretty huge life skills.

Also, her dog usually shuns me because I almost always my own dog or tiny baby in tow. This time, we were best buds. Although this picture indicates otherwise.

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Last night, we had dinner with my sister-in-law, her boyfriend and his kids at East Coast Wings. It occurred to me since Bo is sitting up on his own on the floor, that he could now up in a high chair. I plopped him in one and immediately felt tears come to my eyes to see how grown up he looked.

The same thing happened today when I realized he could hold his bottle on his own. I am pretty sure this is how people end up with a half a dozen kids when you mourn every stage of babyhood passing.

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And the next thing I know, it's Sunday night again! These weeks really do go by so fast, and having our month carved out into every other week on/off work schedules makes the month fly by. I'm sure the ER work schedule would drive some people crazy - and granted, it's not the greatest at the holidays - but I really love our non-traditional schedule. It's so great to have him home on random weekdays and we try to make the most of his time off from work.

Friday, February 8, 2013

3 Month and 4 Month Schedule

Recently, I was cleaning out the notes section on my phone - which I use as a to do list, journal, grocery list, meal planning and brainstorm section - and came across notes where I had written out Bo's schedule at 3 and 4 months.

Just the idea of it makes me giggle a little now. Hindsight is, of course, 20/20 and I'm sure in another 6 months, I'll be giggling at things I wrote about today.

In those notes, I can see how badly I wanted life to be predictable again. Someone had told me to accept that first 12 weeks would be chaos, and I did. I accepted it and went along for the ride. However, when I hit the 12 week mark, I thought life would magically get more organized, predictable and consistent. I even wrote a blog post about it here. 

Of course, life did not get more predictable and somehow over the course of the last two months, I've been able to let go of the overwhelming need to know what each day will hold. I won't ever know. I can't ever know. I can guess - our daily routine is definitely shaking out more into a schedule than before. But, I have finally come to accept this stunningly simple and amazing fact: babies are unpredictable.

Shocking, right? Totally.

In the midst of my "must. plan. life" phase, I constantly googled to see what other people's babies schedules were like to see if Bo was "normal." It turns out there were about eleventy million variations of normal schedules for a 3-4 month old.

Shocking, right?

But, it was still helpful to me - usually in the middle of the night - to come across a life that sounded like mine. So I'm posting mine here, in case someone else reads it in the middle of the night, and takes some some relief in seeing their life mirrored in it. Also, since this is all the baby book my little bugger is going to get, here you go, kid. A snapshot of your life, recorded for posterity.

Oh, and since we're here, I'll throw in a photo dump for good measure. A few pictures from a walk on a chilly day - I think it's probably a good thing Bo is a southern boy. He doesn't seem to be thrilled with being bundled up.

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Bo's 3 Month Schedule
3:30 - eat
4:00-6:45 - sleep
7:00 - eat
7:15-8:00 Activity mat / tummy time
8:00 - 9:00 nap #1
9:00-10:00 play downstairs 
10:00 - eat
10:30 - 1:00 nap #2
1:00 - eat
2:00 - 4:00 errands / car seat nap #3
4:00 - eat
5:00-6:00 catnap #4
6:00-7:00 walk
7:00 - eat
7:30 - bath, books, prayers
8:00 - lights out! 
Bo's 4 Month Schedule
5:30 am - wake, 6 oz
Sleeps 6:00-7:30
7:30 am - 4 oz + 1/2 Tbsp cereal 
Wiggle time/tummy time
Naps crib 8:30-9:30
10:30 - 6 oz
Naps swing 11:00-1:00/1:30
1:30 - 6 oz + 1/2 Tbsp cereal 
{Run errands - car seat naps}
4:30 - 6 oz
Attempt swing nap 5:00-6:00
6:00ish - walk, bath, fussyface
6:30-7:00ish - 4 oz 
7:00 - bed 

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Thursday, February 7, 2013

Dining in the Dash: Mary's Gourmet Dinner

This post is so severely overdue there are fines on it. I can't remember when exactly when ate here but it was before Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving! That was a long time ago.

We met Anne and Locke here for brunch on a Sunday. I'm not sure why we came here on a Sunday considering this is their busiest day of the week and both of our husbands are off for 7 days in a row and we could have come aaaaany other day, but here we were on a Sunday, waiting in line for brunch.



That was probably my first tip off that this was going to be a good meal. Waiting in line for brunch is the norm of course… IF that is, you live in New York, Chicago, LA, San Fran, DC or any other city with public transportation and people who don't regularly go to church on Sunday. Waiting for brunch in Winston, sure. Waiting in a LINE twenty people deep? Doesn't happen here.

Fortunately, it was worth the wait. Totally, totally worth it.

There were so many things on the menu I wanted to try that I can't believe we haven't been back eighty times since then. (Matt, we need to go back to Mary's.)



Anne and I both couldn't decide between a savory or a sweet breakfast, so we split the difference. She ordered the French toast special with lemon curd and I ordered the Apple Butter, Baby. Apple Butter, Baby: scrambled eggs, smoked sausage and homemade apple butter on wheat toast.



If you don't have a friend who's willing to go half-sweet, half-savory on brunch with you then I would recommend interviewing everyone in line to find one. Best idea ever.

Our food was great, our service was excellent (responsive without being overbearing), the prices were decent and most important of all to us these days, it was very baby friendly. The husbands both had various omelets and were equally as happy. We have had so many friends recommend this place to us and I completely understand why now. It is a favorite among Winston-Salem residents and we can be counted among them now.

In fact, we liked it so much we went back just two weeks later. This time, on a Wednesday.

A review of our “Dining in the Dash” Project